refs.c: change update_ref to use a transaction

Change the update_ref helper function to use a ref transaction internally.

Signed-off-by: Ronnie Sahlberg <sahlberg@google.com>
Reviewed-by: Michael Haggerty <mhagger@alum.mit.edu>
Signed-off-by: Jonathan Nieder <jrnieder@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Junio C Hamano <gitster@pobox.com>